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Heal yourself by learning to love yourself despite a broken heart. Confused where and how to begin the path to self love? We have some tips!
The Japanese have a tradition called Kintsugi. It means fixing broken things by pouring liquid gold in it. The mended object becomes even more beautiful and valuable for them. They believe that it is what gives the broken thing, a character. I love the concept because this tradition makes that part shine through where it once hurt.
Relationships, no matter how deep or meaningful, always break a person at one point in time or the other. Too much love, too much expectation, too much ego, every relationship has some element of ‘too much’ that unknowingly breaks the person one loves. Sometimes, the cracks are deep, sometimes they are minor. But a crack is a crack whatsoever and if left unattended, it can lead to scars. Emotional scars.
It is important that a person in a relationship pour liquid gold where there are cracks in the soul. How can one do that?
By pouring in a lot of self-love.
No matter how demanding your life is, always make time for yourself. Create a routine for yourself that allows you to enjoy ‘Me time.’
Some people like to read, some people like to watch Netflix, while some love to do gardening. No matter what your ‘me time’ consists of, make time for it every day.
Give your soul the time to reconnect and rejuvenate. Spend some time alone with yourself. Lay on the grass watching clouds pass by. Or simply plug out the world with your favourite music. Read in candlelight while taking a bubble bath.
There is a reason why people might judge you. But your minus point is never the reason on which the judgement is based. Do not make other people’s judgement steer the course of your life. If you do that, you will only lose yourself and realize that you were good the way you were when it’s too late. Accept others the way they are. If they cannot do the same, well block them out. Love yourself the way you are. No one else will.
We are social animals. Socializing is natural to us. Do not stop socializing with people you like just because you are in a relationship. Go out meet friends. Go for that all guys night out or an all gals luncheon.
It is possible that you might have relationship commitments. Make space to fulfil those commitments by all means. Once you are done with those, do make space to accommodate your social commitments.
Everyone loves to do something. Some people love to paint, some love playing sports, while others love to cook. Fuel your passions. Who knows, you might end up doing something big. If nothing, engaging in doing things you love will surely help you practice loving yourself more.
Do we need to emphasize why? Well, No! Hit the gym, jog, or cycle. Whether you are a gym person or an outdoors one, always find time to exercise.
Family, best friends or the neighbourhood granny – people who make your life seem better to go a long way to sustain your well-being. Spend time with these people.
Love yourself. When you do that, the cracks in your soul will automatically heal. ‘’Where is the time?’’ you may ask. Well, you go that extra mile to keep your loved ones happy, don’t you? Then, why not go that extra mile for yourself, too? All it takes is the desire to love and cherish yourself. Do you have that desire in you?
Header image is a screenshot from the movie Jab We Met
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People say that women are the greatest enemies of women. I vehemently disagree. It is the patriarchal mindset that makes women believe in the wrong ideology.
The entire world celebrates International Women’s Day on March 8, 2024. It should be a joyful day, but unfortunately, not all women are entitled to this privilege, as violence against women is at its peak. The experience of oppression pushes many women to choose freedom. As far as patriotism is concerned, feminism is not a cup of tea in this society.
What happens when a woman decides to stand up for herself? Does this world easily accept the decisions of women in this society? What inspires them to be free of the clutches of the oppression that women have faced for ages? Most of the time, women do not get the chance to decide for themselves. Their lives are always at the mercy of someone, which can be their parents, siblings, husband, or children.
In some cases, women do not feel the need to make any decisions. They are taught to obey the patriarchal system, which makes them believe that they are right. In my family, I was never taught to make decisions on my own. It was always my parents who bought dresses and all that I needed.
14 years after her last feature film Dhobi Ghat, storyteller extraordinaire comes up with her new film, Laapataa Ladies, a must watch.
*Some spoilers alert*
Every religion around the world dictates terms to women. The onus is always on women to be ‘modest’ and cover their faces and bodies so men can’t be “tempted”, rather than on men to keep their eyes where they belong and behave like civilized beings. So much so that even rape has been excused on the grounds of women eating chowmein or ‘men will be men’. I think the best Hindi movie retort to this unwanted advice on ‘akeli ladki khuli tijori ki tarah hoti hai’ (an alone woman is like an open jewellery box) came from Geet in Jab We Met – Kya aap gyan dene ke paise lete hain kyonki chillar nahin hain mere paas.
The premise of Laapataa Ladies is beautifully simple – two brides clad in the ghunghat that covers their identity get mixed up on a train. Within this Russian Doll, you get a comedy of errors, a story of getting lost, a commentary on patriarchy’s attitude towards women, a mystery, and a tale of finding oneself, all in one. Done with a mostly light touch that has you laughing and nodding along.
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