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Heal yourself by learning to love yourself despite a broken heart. Confused where and how to begin the path to self love? We have some tips!
The Japanese have a tradition called Kintsugi. It means fixing broken things by pouring liquid gold in it. The mended object becomes even more beautiful and valuable for them. They believe that it is what gives the broken thing, a character. I love the concept because this tradition makes that part shine through where it once hurt.
Relationships, no matter how deep or meaningful, always break a person at one point in time or the other. Too much love, too much expectation, too much ego, every relationship has some element of ‘too much’ that unknowingly breaks the person one loves. Sometimes, the cracks are deep, sometimes they are minor. But a crack is a crack whatsoever and if left unattended, it can lead to scars. Emotional scars.
It is important that a person in a relationship pour liquid gold where there are cracks in the soul. How can one do that?
By pouring in a lot of self-love.
No matter how demanding your life is, always make time for yourself. Create a routine for yourself that allows you to enjoy ‘Me time.’
Some people like to read, some people like to watch Netflix, while some love to do gardening. No matter what your ‘me time’ consists of, make time for it every day.
Give your soul the time to reconnect and rejuvenate. Spend some time alone with yourself. Lay on the grass watching clouds pass by. Or simply plug out the world with your favourite music. Read in candlelight while taking a bubble bath.
There is a reason why people might judge you. But your minus point is never the reason on which the judgement is based. Do not make other people’s judgement steer the course of your life. If you do that, you will only lose yourself and realize that you were good the way you were when it’s too late. Accept others the way they are. If they cannot do the same, well block them out. Love yourself the way you are. No one else will.
We are social animals. Socializing is natural to us. Do not stop socializing with people you like just because you are in a relationship. Go out meet friends. Go for that all guys night out or an all gals luncheon.
It is possible that you might have relationship commitments. Make space to fulfil those commitments by all means. Once you are done with those, do make space to accommodate your social commitments.
Everyone loves to do something. Some people love to paint, some love playing sports, while others love to cook. Fuel your passions. Who knows, you might end up doing something big. If nothing, engaging in doing things you love will surely help you practice loving yourself more.
Do we need to emphasize why? Well, No! Hit the gym, jog, or cycle. Whether you are a gym person or an outdoors one, always find time to exercise.
Family, best friends or the neighbourhood granny – people who make your life seem better to go a long way to sustain your well-being. Spend time with these people.
Love yourself. When you do that, the cracks in your soul will automatically heal. ‘’Where is the time?’’ you may ask. Well, you go that extra mile to keep your loved ones happy, don’t you? Then, why not go that extra mile for yourself, too? All it takes is the desire to love and cherish yourself. Do you have that desire in you?
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Neena was the sole caregiver of Amma and though one would think that Amma was dependent on her, Neena felt otherwise.
Neena inhaled the aroma that emanated from the pan and took a deep breath. The aroma of cumin interspersed with butter transported her back to the modest kitchen in her native village. She could picture her father standing in the kitchen wearing his white crisp kurta as he made delectable concoctions for his only daughter.
Neena grew up in a home where both her parents worked together in tandem to keep the house up and running. She had a blissful childhood in her modest two-room house. The house was small but every nook and cranny gave her memories of a lifetime. Neena’s young heart imagined that her life would follow the same cheerful course. But how wrong she was!
When she was sixteen, the catastrophic clutches of destiny snatched away her parents. They passed away in a road accident and Neena was devastated. Relatives thronged her now gloomy house and soon it was decided that she should be married off.
Women today don’t want to be in a partnership that complicates their lives further. They need an equal partner with whom they can figure out life as a team, playing by each other’s strengths.
We all are familiar with that one annoying aunty who is more interested in our marital status than in the dessert counter at a wedding. But these aunties have somehow become obsolete now. Now they are replaced by men we have in our lives. Friends, family, and even work colleagues. It’s the men who are worried about why we are not saying yes to one among their clans. What is wrong with us? Aren’t we scared of dying alone? Like them?
A recent interaction with a guy friend of mine turned sour when he lectured me about how I would regret not getting married at the right time. He lectured that every event in our lives needs to be completed within a certain timeframe set by society else we are doomed. I wasn’t angry. I was just disappointed to realize that annoying aunties are rapidly doubling in our society. And they don’t just appear at weddings or family functions anymore. They are everywhere. They are the real pandemic.
Let’s examine this a little closer.
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