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Does it feel like the talk about menstruation has been done to death? Well, not really. It's still as much of a taboo in most homes and places.
Does it feel like the talk about menstruation has been done to death? Well, not really. It’s still as much of a taboo in most homes and places.
Even in the silicon valley of Gurgaon, a posh city inhabited by millenials, I witnessed a discussion on a very popular topic for women – about how even in today’s times, still the women can’t participate in any major Puja in their own homes during periods. They can’t enter the Puja room, can’t fast during Navratris.
One particular instance was that of a lady who was so excited for her housewarming puja, of which she had dreamt for years. Just because she was undergoing menstruation, she had to stay away from everything, as directed by the older woman in the house. The Lakshmi of the house can’t worship the Goddess. Isn’t this sheer hypocrisy?
A festival where a Goddess, a female form is worshiped and another woman at home is not allowed due to her female characteristics!
In the Indian context, menstruation is a subject to be hushed and treated with a lot of hypocrisy. Whenever you go to buy sanitary pads, they cover the pack with a black plastic bag. Why can’t it be seen openly? It is an important accessory for an important part of society i.e.women. Isn’t this a way of keeping her subjugated, submissive? To be treated as unimportant, lesser?
It’s important to acknowledge the natural phenomenon of menstruation of women i.e. to talk about it loudly. To talk about women. In rural India, this natural phenomenon of menstruation is still considered a taboo, a disease and the woman becomes untouchable, every month. The very biological quality, symbolic of the power of reproduction of a female which should be celebrated instead, becomes a mental torture for her. She should hide in a cage as prescribed by our patriarchal society. The divine quality of the power of the womb, capable of creation of the entire human kind is so ill-treated.
The girl undergoing menstruation can’t enter a kitchen, can’t do puja, can’t touch a tulsi plant, can’t sit on a mattress or bed, can’t make pickles. What are these barriers? What purpose do they serve? Hygiene? After all, women still use dirty cloth or rags when pads are not available.
I feel menstruation is empowering women to be in harmony with nature as our menstrual cycles are aligned with the waxing and waning of the moon, which is a 28 day cycle. Thus, women are more aligned with nature biologically and as creators, I also believe that we draw energy from Nature.
It’s time to acknowledge the ‘Wonder’ in women. The periods are not to be whispered about but to be stated loudly and flashing selfies is an important step to make the awareness reach out to many that it’s okay to talk about periods openly. To let the pad reach into the conversation of a household. To normalize it.
More than menstrual hygiene, it’s to approve a woman’s sanctity and existence, Padman’s buzz is important and I commend Twinkle Khanna and Akshay Kumar for doing this as well in the movie Toilet: Ek Prem Katha. It’s time to weave the fabric of a gender sensitized, egalitarian society with a PAD.
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Meenakshi M. Singh is an author of three books “SOULFUL SYMPHONY”, “AAWAZ” and “I AM ENOUGH”- a poetic tribute to the strength of the woman. She is the founder of She The Shakti Inc., a read more...
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Neena was the sole caregiver of Amma and though one would think that Amma was dependent on her, Neena felt otherwise.
Neena inhaled the aroma that emanated from the pan and took a deep breath. The aroma of cumin interspersed with butter transported her back to the modest kitchen in her native village. She could picture her father standing in the kitchen wearing his white crisp kurta as he made delectable concoctions for his only daughter.
Neena grew up in a home where both her parents worked together in tandem to keep the house up and running. She had a blissful childhood in her modest two-room house. The house was small but every nook and cranny gave her memories of a lifetime. Neena’s young heart imagined that her life would follow the same cheerful course. But how wrong she was!
When she was sixteen, the catastrophic clutches of destiny snatched away her parents. They passed away in a road accident and Neena was devastated. Relatives thronged her now gloomy house and soon it was decided that she should be married off.
Women today don’t want to be in a partnership that complicates their lives further. They need an equal partner with whom they can figure out life as a team, playing by each other’s strengths.
We all are familiar with that one annoying aunty who is more interested in our marital status than in the dessert counter at a wedding. But these aunties have somehow become obsolete now. Now they are replaced by men we have in our lives. Friends, family, and even work colleagues. It’s the men who are worried about why we are not saying yes to one among their clans. What is wrong with us? Aren’t we scared of dying alone? Like them?
A recent interaction with a guy friend of mine turned sour when he lectured me about how I would regret not getting married at the right time. He lectured that every event in our lives needs to be completed within a certain timeframe set by society else we are doomed. I wasn’t angry. I was just disappointed to realize that annoying aunties are rapidly doubling in our society. And they don’t just appear at weddings or family functions anymore. They are everywhere. They are the real pandemic.
Let’s examine this a little closer.
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