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We blame so many things on 'society'. But who is this society if not you and me? Change begins with us. Be the change you want to see.
We blame so many things on ‘society’. But who is this society if not you and me? Change begins with us. Be the change you want to see.
Our society is so judgmental, our society is this our society is that , blah blah. We always keep blaming the society for whatever incident we come across. But we often forget to realize, that we are a part of it. Society means us.
Racism? You talk about racism and oppose racism on social media. Why? Coz its cool?
But you are the same person who goes to someone’s wedding and comments on the bride or groom. “She doesn’t match him. He’s so fair. And she’s very dark”. But do you know she has the most beautiful heart unlike yours? “He’s not that good looking, Look at her, she’s so pretty” But what if he has good looks and doesn’t respect her? Doesn’t love her right? This was about color.
Next comes, ‘body shaming’. Today you keep talking about “not to do body shaming, society is responsible for all this” and you are that same person who kept teasing a mate in school “moti” or “fatso”. Due to which her self esteem became zero. She thought she isn’t beautiful because she isn’t skinny like other girls. She started taking some pills to reduce her weight and kept surfing on the internet.
You were responsible for all this.
You talk against bullying while you are the same person who bullied a mate in college for being too innocent. You called him names and harassed him.
But today when someone commits suicide, you post big big paragraphs of condolences on social media. While you are one of the person behind some or the other persons broken heart, low self esteem, emptiness and depression.
Stop blaming ‘society’. Bring a change in yourself first. Bring a change in the way you think about others. Cause it’s quite easy to pass on the blame on, and do the same thing that you oppose just because its cool. Be the change you want to see.
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Neena was the sole caregiver of Amma and though one would think that Amma was dependent on her, Neena felt otherwise.
Neena inhaled the aroma that emanated from the pan and took a deep breath. The aroma of cumin interspersed with butter transported her back to the modest kitchen in her native village. She could picture her father standing in the kitchen wearing his white crisp kurta as he made delectable concoctions for his only daughter.
Neena grew up in a home where both her parents worked together in tandem to keep the house up and running. She had a blissful childhood in her modest two-room house. The house was small but every nook and cranny gave her memories of a lifetime. Neena’s young heart imagined that her life would follow the same cheerful course. But how wrong she was!
When she was sixteen, the catastrophic clutches of destiny snatched away her parents. They passed away in a road accident and Neena was devastated. Relatives thronged her now gloomy house and soon it was decided that she should be married off.
Women today don’t want to be in a partnership that complicates their lives further. They need an equal partner with whom they can figure out life as a team, playing by each other’s strengths.
We all are familiar with that one annoying aunty who is more interested in our marital status than in the dessert counter at a wedding. But these aunties have somehow become obsolete now. Now they are replaced by men we have in our lives. Friends, family, and even work colleagues. It’s the men who are worried about why we are not saying yes to one among their clans. What is wrong with us? Aren’t we scared of dying alone? Like them?
A recent interaction with a guy friend of mine turned sour when he lectured me about how I would regret not getting married at the right time. He lectured that every event in our lives needs to be completed within a certain timeframe set by society else we are doomed. I wasn’t angry. I was just disappointed to realize that annoying aunties are rapidly doubling in our society. And they don’t just appear at weddings or family functions anymore. They are everywhere. They are the real pandemic.
Let’s examine this a little closer.
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