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It is the rapist who rapes, yes, but 'good' men who hide behind #NotAllMen are more to blame, for they made it possible for the rapist to think he can rape!
It is the rapist who rapes, yes, but ‘good’ men who hide behind #NotAllMen are more to blame, for they made it possible for the rapist to think he can rape!
I don’t blame the rapist, I blame you I don’t blame the molester, I blame you
You think you are not at fault because you haven’t raped anyone? You wash your hands off the blame Because it wasn’t your hands that bruised her flesh?
Maybe the cuts and bruises were not your doing Maybe you didn’t tear her open and leave her bleeding
But wasn’t it you who told her not to wear that and go there? Wasn’t it you who reminded her of her unforgivable error when she returned?
Wasn’t it you who made that joke About her sister’s breasts and buttocks and arms and legs; even ankles couldn’t be spared?
Who over-sexualized her to her very toes and the crease on her neck? Wasn’t it you who made a human into a sex toy? Who had only fair skin and long hair?
No heart or lungs to breathe the air you breathe A doll who never laughs or cries or makes jokes with her friends Who doesn’t feel anxious before her exams Nor on her first date
Wasn’t it you who gossiped in whispers about how her life is ruined now? How her very existence is a pity! How she is of no use!
Since the toy’s seal has now been broken So she is worth nothing?
Isn’t it you who will make sure she never forgets about the attack Would you have reminded her all her life the same way if she was beaten up and not raped No! Because the crime doesn’t matter,
It doesn’t matter that she was hurt or traumatized The only thing that matters is that she lost her biggest prize Because after all, that’s all she was worth to this world She might as well have died.
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People say that women are the greatest enemies of women. I vehemently disagree. It is the patriarchal mindset that makes women believe in the wrong ideology.
The entire world celebrates International Women’s Day on March 8, 2024. It should be a joyful day, but unfortunately, not all women are entitled to this privilege, as violence against women is at its peak. The experience of oppression pushes many women to choose freedom. As far as patriotism is concerned, feminism is not a cup of tea in this society.
What happens when a woman decides to stand up for herself? Does this world easily accept the decisions of women in this society? What inspires them to be free of the clutches of the oppression that women have faced for ages? Most of the time, women do not get the chance to decide for themselves. Their lives are always at the mercy of someone, which can be their parents, siblings, husband, or children.
In some cases, women do not feel the need to make any decisions. They are taught to obey the patriarchal system, which makes them believe that they are right. In my family, I was never taught to make decisions on my own. It was always my parents who bought dresses and all that I needed.
14 years after her last feature film Dhobi Ghat, storyteller extraordinaire comes up with her new film, Laapataa Ladies, a must watch.
*Some spoilers alert*
Every religion around the world dictates terms to women. The onus is always on women to be ‘modest’ and cover their faces and bodies so men can’t be “tempted”, rather than on men to keep their eyes where they belong and behave like civilized beings. So much so that even rape has been excused on the grounds of women eating chowmein or ‘men will be men’. I think the best Hindi movie retort to this unwanted advice on ‘akeli ladki khuli tijori ki tarah hoti hai’ (an alone woman is like an open jewellery box) came from Geet in Jab We Met – Kya aap gyan dene ke paise lete hain kyonki chillar nahin hain mere paas.
The premise of Laapataa Ladies is beautifully simple – two brides clad in the ghunghat that covers their identity get mixed up on a train. Within this Russian Doll, you get a comedy of errors, a story of getting lost, a commentary on patriarchy’s attitude towards women, a mystery, and a tale of finding oneself, all in one. Done with a mostly light touch that has you laughing and nodding along.
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