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Parents who believe that their sons are wrongly accused of rape - wouldn't these be rape deniers who are as much guilty of violence as their sons?
Parents who believe that their sons are wrongly accused of rape – wouldn’t these be rape deniers who are as much guilty of violence as their sons?
I came across an interesting article in The New York Times last month about a group of mothers defending their sons who had been accused of sexual assaults at college campuses. In the U.S., the guidelines on campus sexual assaults had been pretty stringent so far. However, these guidelines have been blamed to presume the accused students as guilty, who are usually suspended or expelled from the college campuses for a certain amount of time. Needless to say, most of the accused are men.
These mothers are on a mission to save their sons who, they believe, were “wrongly accused.” As protective mothers, they had compelled the college authorities to relook into their sons’ charges. Some of them consider themselves as feminists and hold opinions that girls today have misconstrued the definition of sexual assault.
In our own backyard, let us recall the infamous Delhi gang rape in 2012. Malti Devi, the mother of one of the convicts Akshay Thakur, desperately pleaded her son’s innocence in front of the reporters even after knowing that her son was involved in a brutal crime that shook the nation.
Though there is a stark difference between the life of Malti Devi and those of the U.S. mothers defending their sons, there is a disturbing similarity in their thoughts. A thought to not teach their ‘innocent’ sons about respecting the opposite sex; a thought to let them be ignorant of the word ‘consent’. Later on, it was just sheer disbelief or denial that kicked in their maternal instincts to protect their sons.
In India, a total of 9,908 convicts were charged with rape in 2015. A majority of these inmates hailed from impoverished backgrounds. Critics might argue that the thoughts about respecting women become a lesser priority amid the lack of basic amenities and literacy. Well, in that case, there would have been no instances of campus sexual assaults in the U.S.
There is no denying that sexual assault or rape happens irrespective of economic conditions or levels of education. It is wrong to assume that a young boy will learn on his own to respect girls and women. He needs to be educated about the meanings of consent and harassment. Who else can teach him better than his own mother? A mother who protects him from the misjudged notions of masculinity to make him a human.
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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