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Society will always try to make women fit its idea of the ideal woman. Should you let yourself be pushed to be what you don't want to be? NO!
Society will always try to make women fit its idea of the ideal woman. Should you let yourself be pushed to be what you don’t want to be? NO!
We the WOMEN are forcefully driven by the society to be what we aren’t supposed to be or must be. This piece of mine urges you to break those walls, set yourself free (not from responsibilities, but mental chains) and be the person who you really are….Be yourself, because that is what will keep you happy and thus your family happy. Don’t try to search for happiness outside you!
Being strong and independent is good. But that doesn’t mean you need to prove yourself to be an incarnation of a Goddess with eight hands! You don’t want to be a burden on anyone? Fine. But that doesn’t mean they become a burden on you and make you a Superwoman. The tag is enticing but the result is stress, loneliness and isolation at the end. Remember, you are here to live a happy, stress-free, content life… not to Save the Earth! But yes, that doesn’t mean you can laze around! Stay active!
Anxiety doesn’t come only to those who have the disorder. It comes to those as well, who want to get the best out of their efforts. You know what you are dealing with, none other knows it better. So don’t pop pills just because someone has called you an ‘anxious creature’ or ‘hyper soul’. No two people are the same. You know your strengths and weaknesses. Balance it out.
Time brings out the reality of people and relations as it passes by. Do not try to hold onto things or people who come with a mask. Remember, it is better to cut off toxic ties than to let them poison your life.
Be it relatives or friends, if they are meant to stay, they will. If your conscience is clear, what else matters? Do not abuse your soul to maintain unnecessary bonds. You are not born to please everyone if it is at the cost of your self-respect or mental health. Brave it up, cut it off!
Don’t take bullshit. High time you realise your worth. Betrayals, broken heart, cheating, broken trust are not something wooden that can be mended. It is all glass, once shattered will never be the same.
Don’t be an object to be misused and reused again. Be loyal to those who are proud of you, who care for your loyalty…don’t bother about those who didn’t return the same emotion. If you can meet your eyes in the mirror, learn to move off and move on!
Bugged by the feeling of getting bored at times? It is OK. You need that break. Whether a working woman or a home-manager, you are on your toes all the time. So just enjoy a day of getting bored, lazing around and pampering yourself. You deserve it!
That creepy feeling of being at the lowest point of your life. We all are hit by it some point or the other. But then no two days are the same. Even our fingers aren’t the same, as says my husband. So why let that feeling envelope you for long? Is it worth your time?
Yes, time. Time is flying, make hay while the Sun shines. Life is too short to be sad about things…most of which aren’t under your control. Take a lesson, bounce back!
All of us at times feel that 24 hours a day aren’t enough. Something or the other remains left out, to be done. But isn’t that OK? Isn’t a delay better than rushing up things, getting stressed and then inviting medical troubles like hypertension, depression, insomnia etc?
I am not encouraging procrastination here. Finish what is there on the platter, just don’t overload it and try to gobble up all hurriedly because the party will be over soon. Don’t be a racing car always; remember its tyres too need a change after each event! And changing your heart or kidneys if it gives up under stress will cost your family a lifetime!
Be it a mistake or a blunder or another instance in life, always remember we are just mere puppets to destiny. Learn from it, don’t live in the past and try move on as soon as you can. Regret and living in it will take you nowhere. Let bygones be bygones, because a woman leads the house in totality… and she has to be happy from within, without remorse to lead a happy family. Live in the present, live for yourself and live happy.
I always make it possible to catch up somehow with those whom I grew up with. Deep down inside we all feel like going back to our childhood. Because it was stress-free. We can’t sit in a time machine to go back, but we surely can relive the happy memories by visiting our childhood buddies.
So do it once in a while, it boosts your will to live in joy. Friends are forever, don’t give-up on them…find time for yourself, for them, because certain bonds are unbreakable. Plan a holiday with them, the more, the merrier!
Strong, independent, happy yet not content. Because you are still insecure. Why? Because you are living in the future. Future that is so uncertain!
An acquaintance died recently in a car accident. She was to get married three days later. Was rushing to be home to save time for pre-wedding rituals. Speeding up the car from worktown to hometown she thought, was the only option. She had attempted this in the past and succeeded. This time, she couldn’t. Future was uncertain, she was perhaps living in an insecurity what will the in-laws think if she reaches late etc, etc. And what now?
There are many an examples otherwise too when we push ourselves beyond our limits, just because we want a secure future. A future that brings it’s own mysteries and chemistries unfolding surprises each day. Planning is good but over-planning and going bonkers to execute isn’t. Plan it up and take life as it comes.
In short, O woman don’t try to be what you aren’t supposed to be. Stay human, stay a Woman!
Image source: By Yosarian (Own work) [CC BY-SA 2.5], via Wikimedia Commons, for representational purposes only.
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Neena was the sole caregiver of Amma and though one would think that Amma was dependent on her, Neena felt otherwise.
Neena inhaled the aroma that emanated from the pan and took a deep breath. The aroma of cumin interspersed with butter transported her back to the modest kitchen in her native village. She could picture her father standing in the kitchen wearing his white crisp kurta as he made delectable concoctions for his only daughter.
Neena grew up in a home where both her parents worked together in tandem to keep the house up and running. She had a blissful childhood in her modest two-room house. The house was small but every nook and cranny gave her memories of a lifetime. Neena’s young heart imagined that her life would follow the same cheerful course. But how wrong she was!
When she was sixteen, the catastrophic clutches of destiny snatched away her parents. They passed away in a road accident and Neena was devastated. Relatives thronged her now gloomy house and soon it was decided that she should be married off.
Women today don’t want to be in a partnership that complicates their lives further. They need an equal partner with whom they can figure out life as a team, playing by each other’s strengths.
We all are familiar with that one annoying aunty who is more interested in our marital status than in the dessert counter at a wedding. But these aunties have somehow become obsolete now. Now they are replaced by men we have in our lives. Friends, family, and even work colleagues. It’s the men who are worried about why we are not saying yes to one among their clans. What is wrong with us? Aren’t we scared of dying alone? Like them?
A recent interaction with a guy friend of mine turned sour when he lectured me about how I would regret not getting married at the right time. He lectured that every event in our lives needs to be completed within a certain timeframe set by society else we are doomed. I wasn’t angry. I was just disappointed to realize that annoying aunties are rapidly doubling in our society. And they don’t just appear at weddings or family functions anymore. They are everywhere. They are the real pandemic.
Let’s examine this a little closer.
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