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The chaos in our lives is a function of the clutter in our homes and relationships. Check out these 10 points for a clutter free mind and life.
“Clutter is not just physical stuff. It’s old ideas, toxic relationships and bad habits. Clutter is anything that does not support your better self.” – Eleanor Brown
Do you want anything mediocre in your life? NO will be your answer, I know. Everyone desires good or rather best. We often do not have control over our lives – it is how things are. But do we want to make this loss of control and the resulting chaos a fixed thing in our lives? No again, right?
There are certain aspects we can work on to make things easier with a clutter free mind and life, even when certain things seem out of control.
Most of the times we tend to keep useless things. “It may turn useful someday” is the general thought. While that ‘someday’ seldom comes, mess causes stress.
A cluttered house doesn’t let you relax and you don’t even realize that. Let your home breathe. Toss out those tatterdemalion things and feel the difference.
It is not that easy but it is not that difficult either. The best way to make your day productive and extract some quality time for you is ‘Getting up early’ (And minimum TV).
Even though I am not a morning person, I strongly believe that getting up early saves a lot of time making your days productive thus making your home and mind clutter free.
No, you don’t have to be rude. It happens that your heart screams a big ‘NO’ but you find yourself saying a meek ‘YES’ with a wan smile. This attitude prompts people to take you for granted.
Dare to say a NO. You can be firm and polite at the same time. Just a firm NO can solve many of your problems, time and unnecessary thoughts.
You think too much about what others will think (While they may not be thinking that much). Remember, you can’t make everyone happy. And, keeping others happy is not your job. Think about your own happiness and stop pleasing others unnecessarily.
It is good that you care for your relationship and you should. But, don’t let others cross the boundary.
Sometimes, some people, when they speak inappropriately, deserve an appropriate answer. Make them understand that you are not going to buy all of their unfair blabbers. Don’t feel bad if you dare to speak up for yourself (When people say something wrong to you). It is good for the peace of your mind and health of your relationship with that person.
There are some people who deserve to be ignored. Discouraging, mean, and toxic people mislead you at times making your life jumbled.
Again, you don’t have to be rude. Just keep a decent distance. Distance is good and sometimes, essential. You need a fair distance even for seeing things clearly or else things get blurred. Avoid interacting with them and find yourself at peace.
Yes, especially when it comes to your close relationships. Being hidebound can give you sleepless nights and unnecessary pain.
You must understand your priorities. It makes your life organised, your mind calm. If you feel confused (which is possible), try making a list of your priorities.
And, put your ultimate effort to stay fit and healthy. A clean and happy mind resides in a healthy body. Life and mind become super cluttered when you or people around you fall sick. Take care of yourself. Only then you’d be able to take care of your dear ones.
So, what are other ways you can suggest to have a clutter free mind and life?
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Tarang Sinha is a Delhi based writer, translator and painter. She's the author of We Will Meet Again. She has translated a book titled 'Don't You Quit' published by Westland Books. Her articles read more...
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Let’s examine this a little closer.
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