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Witnessing his friend's life being ruined in front of his eyes, Usman Ghani urges women not to quit careers for marriage in his Twitter post.
Witnessing his friend’s life being ruined in front of his eyes, Usman Ghani urges women not to quit careers for marriage in his Twitter post.
Marriage — considered the final destination of an individual in our society. In fact in our society marriage is so integrated into the minds of the people that life without marriage is practically non-existent. People and often women are forced to give up on their dreams in pursuit of a ‘happy married life’. But does it really lead to ‘happily ever after‘?
A Twitter user, Usman Ghani, recently posted a thread of tweets urging women not to give up their dreams, aspirations and careers for marriage. After sharing the heartbreaking story of one of his friends who was faced with this very pressure, Mr. Ghani has requested women that it doesn’t matter what age they are in, no matter how much pressure they face from society and their own parents, they should not get married if they are not absolutely sure about the person and the future of the relationship, and certainly not at the cost of their careers.
Something’s been pinching me for some days now. Thought of letting it out of my system by sharing it here. Here goes……. — Usman Ghani (@UGpk) February 15, 2017
Something’s been pinching me for some days now. Thought of letting it out of my system by sharing it here. Here goes…….
— Usman Ghani (@UGpk) February 15, 2017
If you read on, you’ll notice that how this story resonates so well with each one of us. How each one of us know someone or the other who’s been through this very fight or still are fighting.
There was this girl in my school, back in 90’s. Brilliant, studious, hard working, very confident, a topper, a debater, a class prefect…. — Usman Ghani (@UGpk) February 15, 2017
There was this girl in my school, back in 90’s. Brilliant, studious, hard working, very confident, a topper, a debater, a class prefect….
We were class fellows. She was the kind of girl with whom boys talked after rehearsing. Despite mad competition between us, we were friends. — Usman Ghani (@UGpk) February 15, 2017
We were class fellows. She was the kind of girl with whom boys talked after rehearsing. Despite mad competition between us, we were friends.
I guess the proudest moments of my school and college life were whenever I scored better than her in exams. Couldn’t beat her in confidence — Usman Ghani (@UGpk) February 15, 2017
I guess the proudest moments of my school and college life were whenever I scored better than her in exams. Couldn’t beat her in confidence
We both chose engineering after college and graduated. I chose to work in an industry and she chose to pursue Masters in engineering. — Usman Ghani (@UGpk) February 15, 2017
We both chose engineering after college and graduated. I chose to work in an industry and she chose to pursue Masters in engineering.
Later, she joined one of the best universities of the country as a lecturer in Engineering. That’s when her parents decided to marry her off — Usman Ghani (@UGpk) February 15, 2017
Later, she joined one of the best universities of the country as a lecturer in Engineering. That’s when her parents decided to marry her off
An arranged marriage in a well off family meant that she had to quit job & live as a house wife. This wasn’t all, guy was a college dropout. — Usman Ghani (@UGpk) February 15, 2017
An arranged marriage in a well off family meant that she had to quit job & live as a house wife. This wasn’t all, guy was a college dropout.
Parents, too old and too scared. That was the reason for this brilliant girl to give up all her dreams, her ego and her career. — Usman Ghani (@UGpk) February 15, 2017
Parents, too old and too scared. That was the reason for this brilliant girl to give up all her dreams, her ego and her career.
The guy was nearly an uneducated, spoiled brat of a business family who couldn’t stomach a woman having an education, or an opinion, or ego. — Usman Ghani (@UGpk) February 15, 2017
The guy was nearly an uneducated, spoiled brat of a business family who couldn’t stomach a woman having an education, or an opinion, or ego.
In no time after her wedding she realized that he was verbally and physically abusive and his family supported and encouraged all this. — Usman Ghani (@UGpk) February 15, 2017
In no time after her wedding she realized that he was verbally and physically abusive and his family supported and encouraged all this.
But she kept quiet in the face of all abuse because her parents were too old and too scared. — Usman Ghani (@UGpk) February 15, 2017
But she kept quiet in the face of all abuse because her parents were too old and too scared.
She had no money to spend on herself and her husband never bothered to give her a penny. She had already quit her job. So there was no way. — Usman Ghani (@UGpk) February 15, 2017
She had no money to spend on herself and her husband never bothered to give her a penny. She had already quit her job. So there was no way.
Shocked, I asked why would she live with a man so abusive and so insulting. Her reply was, “My parents are too old…. sick and scared.” — Usman Ghani (@UGpk) February 15, 2017
Shocked, I asked why would she live with a man so abusive and so insulting. Her reply was, “My parents are too old…. sick and scared.”
Seeing a woman who was brilliant, smart, confident and did not deserve to be treated like this disheartened Mr. Ghani to such an extent that he takes up this opportunity to address parents everywhere.
Girls! Your parents love you. But one day, they will be old, sick and scared. DO NOT QUIT YOUR CAREER FOR MARRIAGE. Earn you own money. — Usman Ghani (@UGpk) February 15, 2017
Girls! Your parents love you. But one day, they will be old, sick and scared. DO NOT QUIT YOUR CAREER FOR MARRIAGE. Earn you own money.
It does not matter if you’re thirty or thirty five, do not marry, I say DO NOT MARRY a man you feel is unsuitable for you. — Usman Ghani (@UGpk) February 15, 2017
It does not matter if you’re thirty or thirty five, do not marry, I say DO NOT MARRY a man you feel is unsuitable for you.
Parents! One day, you will be old, sick and scared. Please raise your daughters as persons and not as commodity. Let them work and earn. — Usman Ghani (@UGpk) February 15, 2017
Parents! One day, you will be old, sick and scared. Please raise your daughters as persons and not as commodity. Let them work and earn.
Teach your girls to live on their own and never depend on a man for their survival. Do not force them to marry if there is no compatibility. — Usman Ghani (@UGpk) February 15, 2017
Teach your girls to live on their own and never depend on a man for their survival. Do not force them to marry if there is no compatibility.
Parents! Don’t panic if your girl is in 30’s & single. Let her pursue her dreams. Don’t blackmail your girl for marriage. This isn’t love. — Usman Ghani (@UGpk) February 15, 2017
Parents! Don’t panic if your girl is in 30’s & single. Let her pursue her dreams. Don’t blackmail your girl for marriage. This isn’t love.
Girls! Do not be blackmailed in the name of family, honor or parents. You are the ones who have to live with the man, YOU decide. — Usman Ghani (@UGpk) February 15, 2017
Girls! Do not be blackmailed in the name of family, honor or parents. You are the ones who have to live with the man, YOU decide.
Parents! Teach your sons to respect women. Teach them that they’re marrying a human being and they’re equals. Let your daughter-in-law work. — Usman Ghani (@UGpk) February 15, 2017
Parents! Teach your sons to respect women. Teach them that they’re marrying a human being and they’re equals. Let your daughter-in-law work.
Girls! It’s great to have a loving and caring life partner. But if love and care is not there, walk away. Have means and money to walk away. — Usman Ghani (@UGpk) February 15, 2017
Girls! It’s great to have a loving and caring life partner. But if love and care is not there, walk away. Have means and money to walk away.
Mr. Ghani’s Twitter thread has evidently gone viral. His special pleas to the parents to let their daughters become self-dependent and fearless is worth all the accolades he is getting. We wish power to his pen, in the hopes that it will bring about a change!
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