Do we value elders and make them feel loved while they are with us? What is the use of mourning them after their death if we don’t?
I would like to recollect a quote of Thomas Fuller here which says, “We never know the worth of water until the well is dry”. This is exactly our case as well. We don’t fully realize the significance of cherishing and appreciating the elders in our life and it becomes too late when we finally do.
For example, when we visualize an image of a home in our mind, we picture a mother, a father and their children. Parents take care of all their kids by struggling and forfeiting their own aspirations every now and then, to finally make the children adept in handling their own life. However later in life, these children are unable to take care of their parents individually. Instead they share the responsibility among themselves, taking only partial accountability.
Couldn’t we look after our elders as they took care of us when we were young? Why can’t we return the care and love which they deserve? Why can’t we appreciate them while they are alive instead of showing false sentiments after their demise? They can see and feel our care only when they are alive, and not on their death bed. Is this what we call development and modernization?
We are now in an era where we throw things when they broken or, we don’t put an effort to get them fixed. Same is the case with our relations with our elders. We don’t realize the value of people when they are alive. We take it for granted and ignore, and run behind our own selfish motives.
Women are more a victim of this when they get old. The mothers are left cornered once the father leaves this world. Children knowingly or unknowingly get busy and ignore their mother and father.
We should teach and show our younger generation the value of showing respect to everyone. The simple act of paying attention does wonders, especially to those elders who suffer from diseases such as Alzheimer’s disease or other forms of dementia. Compassion, patience and learning how to pay attention to small details will not only make their day, but often yours too.
A few things we should try to follow, because one day we would also face the same experience.
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