Pamper yourself and live a little for yourselves, ladies! Only a happy person can give out happiness to family and society! Me time is the mantra.
I am sure, we have all heard the old song, apne liye jiye tho kya jiye, jiyea, tuhee e dil zamaney k liye. I used to love this song earlier but now I want to change the lines.
I think it’s equally important to live for yourself, else you will end up with nothing!
This is applicable to all women at large who think their life is nothing, but for their families only. Their main motto is to look after them from dusk to dawn. Running around just to accomplish their families’ basic requirements and luxuries.
Adjusting in all directions with all possibilities. And I feel this category is not divided by SAHM or Working mom. It’s more of a crown of responsibility we wear all the time and which we don’t want to give up.
Down the line, the results are Anxiety, Depression, Migraine, Asthma – all these are forms of stress and lifestyle related problems.
We look for every possible way to connect everything with our family. You leave your favourite restaurant because your kid or husband has a different choice. You leave your work because it’s difficult to manage. You leave your hobbies, as there is no time to follow that passion. You leave behind everything which had reflected ‘You’ at one time.
I understand that the first few years of parenting or as a wife need a lot of time – to be together and to build a better understanding.
Yes, our children need us and we have to be there for them. To support, to love, to cuddle, to listen to them. But don’t you think in these daily juggling chores, we ourselves are lost?
We are killing our own selves. What happened to your passion for art and craft, your singing, your sewing skills, your love for watching a movie in a theater, your sports mania, a love for watch cricket?
Where are you – just lost somewhere with no dreams and no passion to follow?
Bus life chal rahee hai..and..
Had we ever dreamt of this? I don’t think so.
Then what’s stopping us? Children, homework, husband, chores, extra work at office, deadline?
We ourselves are stopping us.
Do you think, that for once if you are late to the office, things will not move?
Do you think, if you are dropping your kid in the daycare for 2-3 hours, you will become a bad Mom?
Do you think if you are out with your friends for a day out, leaving your children with your husband will make his life miserable?
Do you think if you don’t cook today, everyone will prefer fasting ?
No way! Naa hee dhartee phategee naa hee asmaan. (Neither will the earth split open, nor the sky!) Things will remain the same as usual but we will feel the difference – that today I have lived for MYSELF. Those precious hours you spend with yourself when you move out of the house, without your routine life, will all be worth it.
Just give it a try – shop for hours, go for a movie.
You might need a friend but I think going alone would be great fun.
Just enjoy yourself and start loving and living your life again.
Start your long pending yoga classes, music classes, singing classes, start making a designer dress as you were doing earlier, and if you are on a career break and still think you can never re-join, then engage yourself in some activities. It’s equally important to engage your brain in healthy activities rather than stressing it out physically and mentally.
There is no age when you can’t learn and restart your work. Engage your brain and yourself with a little ME time . You will definitely fall in love with your life again.
After all, happy MOMs can only have happy families!
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