Clueless about speaking with a single mom without sounding patronizing or stereotypical? Here is my list of top 10 things you should say to a single mom!
I am a single mom and I have heard my fair share of cringe-worthy statements from people who were actually trying to tell me ‘nice’ things. It is amusing to learn that some people don’t really realize what it is they are doing when they say such dialogues!
If you look online, there are many lists that tell you what not to say to a single mom, but not as many that tell you what you could say to make a single mom feel good! So, I thought of putting together a list of the top 10 things you should say to a single mom!
It might be a good idea to consider this list if you have ever wondered what you could say that doesn’t sound like you are ‘trying’ too hard.
This one is the best statement you can ever say, pure gold! It is difficult to go wrong with this one. Every single mom goes to bed doubting if she is doing enough for her child and wakes up thinking what more she can do. A little reminder in the form of that sentence will go a long way in reassuring her!
This sentence may look simple, but there are many ways to go wrong with this one. Look, at that sentence again, there is no ‘Wow’ before the ‘You’ neither is there a ‘today’ after the ‘great’, meaning you look great as always, not just today or on any particular day!
I spend a lot of time brooding over the fact that all the little things that my son and I did together were incomplete memories for him because he has only one parent. That was until I recognized that in all those memories I could see the happy face of my little one. That means we are enough for each other. That is also why that little sentence will go a long way in making a single mom feel better.
Whether a family of both parents and children, or a single parent and a child, a family is a family, no matter who plays the lead or the major role. It’s as simple and as easy as that!
I rarely make plans that do not involve my son and at those rare moments too, I feel terribly guilty for being away from him. So a little reassurance that it is fine to use a sitter once in a while really helps me relax!
I have had quite the number of people telling me to jump back into the dating scene and many have asked me why I am ‘wasting time’! Well first off, this is no competition and secondly each person heals at a different pace. So the best thing you can say on the topic of getting back there, is “it’s OK if you need more time!”
I love my son to bits and can’t imagine a moment without him, but then there are times that come once in a blue moon, when I just want to be by myself, alone doing something that I love. Of course like most moms, I feel guilty of wanting to do that, so that reassurance that it is fine to want to be alone at times, will really help!
Too many people use the words ‘I understand’ without thinking about the impact of those words. Instead, why not tell the truth and say that you don’t know how it is, but you can imagine how it could be!
Most times, single moms get so caught up in their ‘domesticated’ life that they end up thinking that there is nothing else they can do. A little reminder in the form of the sentence above would be a good idea to remind her that the world is our canvas and we can paint on it however we want!
Last but definitely not the least, every single parent would love to hear this that they are doing an awesome job parenting their kids! If you feel they deserve this compliment, they why not tell them that?
I hope you enjoyed reading this list. Is there something you did like to add? Let me know in the comments.
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