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It's my life. I do not need to be told by anyone how to live my life, as long as I do not impinge upon another human being's right of living theirs.
It’s my life. I do not need to be told by anyone how to live my life, as long as I do not impinge upon another human being’s right of living theirs.
Dear holier-than-thou of the know-it-all, done-it-all generation,
When I share my bed with my two dogs – I might be defying your sense of hygiene but let me remind you it’s my life, my dogs & my bed. Thank you & now let’s get to the more crucial points in this one-sided conversation.
Yes, I am a late riser, I barely cook & I speak less. That’s who I am and I am not even 1% sorry that I am not like you or that you don’t like me. You don’t seem to inspire me anyway!
Yes, I survive on boiled eggs, simple meals, unpeeled fruits & sometimes just leftovers of last night because – let me put it as clearly as I can – I am a non-fussy eater who doesn’t enjoy cooking. In fact, discussing & debating over the menu for breakfast, lunch & dinner seems like a serious waste of time to me. I would rather munch on dry fruits & read a little more than wasting my time over deciding what to eat three times a day.
Yes, I make mistakes. I am in my 20s & I am learning about life. I would love to make my own mistakes and learn from them. Please tell me that you have done everything right in your life so far & I will have a hearty laugh about your glorified lie.
I might not have spent as much as time on this planet as you have but I have traveled from North to South & East to West and, sorry to break your myth, but I have experienced & fought my way through so many things that are beyond your imagination. I don’t claim to know-it-all the way you do but please let me tell you that I am not a five-year-old who needs to guided about what to wear & what to eat.
I have friends from all parts of the country (in fact world) and may be that’s why your subtle & obvious ways of glorifying a culture, community & language look very, very superficial to me. You may put it gently or shove it in my face – I will not buy your we-are-the-best theory & confine myself to your pseudo belief.
I would love to make my own mistakes and learn from them. Please tell me that you have done everything right in your life so far & I will have a hearty laugh about your glorified lie.
While you are free to sit & appreciate someone who settled down in life beautifully – with house, kids & no job – I would roam around in the Himalayas & Thar in my shorts and with messy hair because life is too short to settle down for boredom. I would exhaust myself doing what I love to do to earn my living because that gives me a sense of satisfaction.
I would debate & put across my point of view because, hell yes, I am a girl who is not afraid to call a spade a spade. If my sense of freedom makes you feel uncomfortable – please shut your doors & introspect! That’s the only respite I can offer for now. I will continue to do what I do. You are definitely free to mend your ways.
While you watch your daily soaps, I will participate in gay parades & sign petitions about every single feminist cause because, you know, my generation needs a break from the stereotyping introduced by your generation & reinforced by your daily soaps!
And yes, before I sign off, I just wanted to remind you that eventually, you know, we are all going to die -so let’s live our own lives & be nice to each other.
Regards,
A 21st Century Girl
Communication Strategist, Sporadic Blogger, Instructional Designer, INTJ, Dog lover, Tea Addict, Army Wife read more...
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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