There is happiness is loving others, but there is freedom in loving yourself! This Valentine’s Day, love yourself first.
There is power in questions. The right questions. Questions which make you think, reflect, introspect. Questions which push you out of your comfort zone, which burst a few bubbles, which show you the real picture, which make you understand and realise many things.
Asking the right questions to yourself come sometimes be the best gift you give yourself and possibly the best way to love yourself. Simply because when you ask the right questions, your thoughts, emotions and energies are channeled in the right direction.
As I look back at my own life, some questions have been eye-openers for me. Some have changed my outlook to life. And many have changed my life.
In this post I’m sharing some of those powerful questions with you in the ‘Month of love’ with the hope that they compel you to introspect and internalise life’s many lessons.
If you are doing things you love, then great. If not, then you probably would give one of the following reasons – circumstances are out of my control, other priorities, unplanned or unexpected situations, never ending constraints, commitments to be honored and personal limitations.
Well, do remember that every human being anywhere on this earth (either today or generations ago) had/has one or many of the above at one or different phases of life– so you are not alone. And yet, some people always find or make the time to do things that they love. Maybe you need to just squeeze in that little time to do things you love or make a vocation of the things you love.
Doing things you love will almost always make you happy. Even if it is for 10 minutes a day. For some this joy comes in reading, for some in writing, for some in watching TV, for some in sleeping, for some in creating something worthwhile. Whatever it is, discover it. Make time for it. And do it. It makes a difference!
Learning is a very important dimension to personal growth and development. It does not matter what you are learning, from whom you are learning, how you are learning, how much you are learning – what’s important is that you learn consciously and invest some time and effort regularly to learn new things.
If in your own assessment you are not learning enough, then it’s important to identify what you want to learn and set aside time on a regular basis for learning. I honestly believe if you love yourself, you will make an attempt to learn something new regularly. Try it and see for yourself if you don’t believe me.
The fact is that your overall state of health and well-being will determine the quality of your life today and tomorrow. Hence, it is imperative that you take time to invest in your overall health and wellness. In reality, you know your state of personal health the best, and hence you would be the best judge. If you are not content, then it’s time to ask yourself what is it that you need to, want to do and should do to improve it?
This is another very profound question – the answer to which can sometimes be a revelation to you. Simply because you try to make everyone around you happy; it does not mean you are happy. You might end up being unhappy with yourself. While it is great to make others happy, it is also important that you invest in your own happiness. So do mull over this and see if you need to change one or many aspects of your own life.
Again, time is one of your most valuable personal assets. So use it wisely, and ensure that you earmark some time periodically for those who matter to you – it can be your family, friends, staff, acquaintances, colleagues or soul-mates. But sharing your life with those who matter strengthens relationships and does wonders to your happiness quotient.
You are endowed with infinite potential – Some you are aware, some unexplored and some ignored. But if you ask yourself this question again and follow it with “Why? Why not?” – you will get the answers. Not just a yes-no kind of answer, but more importantly answers which will enable you to live life to the best of your potential.
Your current living environment – be it at work or office or anywhere else affects your thoughts, your energies, your productivity and your creativity. So make sure it is clean, well-organised and the way you want it to be – to get the best out of yourself.
Many of us tend to hold on to our past; and how ever hard we try we are unable to let-go. And in life it’s important to let go and make peace with your past – especially the negativity. Just accept it and release the baggage (easier said than done, but it is not impossible!). Of course, it is wise to take the lessons along. And then focus your energies on the present and future.
In life, you give some and you get some. Most of us tend to receive more than we give. In the long run, it’s important to give – to friends, family, acquaintances, co-workers, an unknown face, a needy soul, someone less fortunate, another living being.
And what can you give? A smile, an advice, a thought, a good deed, an idea, a motivation, an inspiration, time, knowledge, support, a shoulder, a ear, a helping hand, a life lesson and maybe a little wisdom.
Are you really experiencing life – love, laughs, romance, tears, cultures, people, heart-breaks, passion, rainbows, disappointments, failure, trials, experiments, cuisines, technology? This moment? Are you making the moment count? Because the more open you are, the more your experience, the more you enjoy and the more fulfilling life is.
Those are my questions for the day? What are your questions? And what are your answers? Leave a comment to let me know.
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A version of this post was first published at the author’s blog.