I’m a 17-Year-Old Girl And I’m Sick Of Rape Culture

Posted: October 15, 2014
Some of us have gotten so used to rape culture around us, we “adjust”. But how does rape culture affect a young girl? Here’s a response.
First of all, wow. We are supposedly the civilized species among the rest of the animal kingdom. I fail to grasp the concept of violating someone physically. Why would anyone do something that cruel? Rape is a sin. And, may I just take a second here to point out that even the 5th Satanic rule of the earth says – “Do not make sexual advances unless you’re given the mating signal.” Now, if Satan gets it, I’m pretty sure that man can, too?
But no, apparently men are more savage than we thought.

It’s easier to blame the victim

Stephen Joel Trachtenberg, the former president of George Washington University, was recently a guest on The Diane Rehm show, where he said – ” Without making the victims responsible for what happens, one of the groups that have to be trained not to drink in excess are women. They need to be in a position to punch the guys if they misbehave. And so, part of the problem is you have men who take advantage of women who drink too much and there are women who drink too much. And we need to educate our daughters and children in that regard.”
Also, we have an Indian politician, Mulayam Singh Yadav, openly stating that “boys make mistakes” regarding the topic of rape.
Well, is this the sort of world we live in ? Where highly educated personalities and politicians, who we elect as our leaders, come out and blame the heinous crime of rape on the victim?

My choices are not an invitation

Women are not  merely sexual objects. I don’t appreciate the fact that I’ve to constantly look over my shoulder every time I walk outside of my house.
When I’m wearing shorts or a dress and you hungrily look at my legs, it pricks me because I’m not just a piece of flesh which you can grab.
When I’m in the bus and you indecently try to rub yourself on my shoulder. Is that acceptable?
When you smile because my bra strap shows? I’m a woman, I wear undergarments, just as you wear yours. How is that me inviting you ?
If I’m on the beach with a beer in my hand, or a cigarette, if I’m kissing my friend on his cheek or hugging him, it does not make me a slut. Does that make me an easy target? Just so we’re clear, that is, in no way, me provoking you.
If I’m wearing that pretty little skirt or hanging out with guys, does it mean I want to have sex with you and every other man on the street? I dress for myself, I can be friends with whoever I want.
So, don’t you think, even for a second, that I’m open to you coming and touching me.
It makes me sick that you don’t understand.
If I want to drink, I will. If I want, I shall roam around naked for all I care.
No, that still doesn’t give you the right to come and feel me up or pass lewd comments on my character.
I’m 17 years old and I’ve encountered men from the ages of 17-70 look me up, try and hit on me, and pass comments. I’ve faced all of this at such a young age, and I don’t think I want this to go on all my life.I would like to live in a safe world and see justice served.
You need to understand and respect women, there is nothing more important than that.
Stop the violence against women.
This post was first published here.
 
Pic credit: Image of Violence Against Women via Shutterstock

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  1. It’s easier to blame victims for one simple reason – people get the feeling that they’re in control. The alternative is scary. If a woman is raped for no fault of her own…it means that bad things can happen to good people, and there’s nothing we can do about it. This is why, in my opinion, we see even women blame the victim. It gives them a false sense of security. It makes them feel that they are in control of what happens to them.

    But it’s time to face realities. And we can dismantle the “men are provoked and lost control” bullshit with one simple question. Would these same men attack a woman who’s well protected by bodyguards? Or will they keep their hands to themselves? If it’s the latter, we lay bare the hypocrisy. Men do not attack well protected women because they’re afraid of consequences. If they truly “lost control” however, then such things as personal safety does not matter. After all, that is what “losing control” means.

    But the little experiment above amply demonstrates that men don’t “lose control”. They choose to rape. And that is a huge shift in viewpoint.

    • Better question is, will they rape their mom or sister if she was dressed “indecently”? And what about the sick bastards who rape kids? Men who “lose control” are not real men.

  2. So glad that you are saying this loud and clear! Yes – there is NO provocation for assaulting or raping a woman. No matter what she wears, where she is, or with whom.

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