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In the everyday bustle of being a wife, daughter, mother, sister - we often forget ourselves. Here is a poignant reminder to stay true to yourself, and to live a little.
In the everyday bustle of being a wife, daughter, mother, sister – we often forget ourselves. Here is a poignant reminder to stay true to yourself, and to live a little.
There she was.
Sitting alone in her balcony at 11 pm, with a cup of hot jasmine tea in her hands, which was helping her keep warm on that cold night. Both the children were fast asleep, and the husband was traveling on business. She had the life that others were envious of; a big house, pretty and wise kids, and a rich, intelligent husband. But there she was, staring into open space, sitting out on that cold night, feeling a void deep, down inside. She loved her kids, her doting husband, and her palatial house, but she didn’t love herself like she used to.
She had given up too much to make this dreamy life possible.
She had stopped living for herself, feeling ‘only’ for herself. Her talks always started with her kids and her husband, and her day was planned around them. She had sacrificed her career (the only thing that was ‘hers’) for the lonely nights she had now. Even with the house full, there was an empty space inside her that haunted her all the time.
She had stopped living for herself, feeling ‘only’ for herself. Her talks always started with her kids and her husband, and her day was planned around them.
She had dreamt of this life. What went wrong?
There are so many of us women who feel like this at some point in our lives. We become doting mothers, loving wives, caring daughters and sisters, but stop being ourselves. Losing one’s identity in the stream of life is the biggest price that one can pay. Never forget how important it is to live your life on your own terms, as there is only one life to live.
I am not saying that only a career can give you that satisfaction. Little comforts that you used to enjoy – like being around your parents, going on a drive with your friends, a yoga class, your singing practice, going for a run every evening – take time out for all of that, the things that make the true you.
After years of living without your identity, you might not remember at which corner you dropped it in this journey of life. Keep it intact.
Pic credit: QuinnDombrowski (Used under a CC license)
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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