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Why work is so important to a woman’s life and why every woman must try it to keep the smile on her face.
You are a total home-bird said my colleague in those days, during the very beginning of my career. Though I disagreed completely, I might have believed her down the lane.
Years later, after short stints of jobs and no steady career, I decided, maybe she was right. I loved my home. I loved my time alone, and I really loved my house neat and tidy. But though home was what I had settled for, I had this constant urge to express myself, to contribute, to make a difference in this world.
I know it sounds far-fetched and too philosophical, but I don’t think I should have bought into what my friend suggested. I clearly believed her judgment about me and accepted myself as someone ‘homely’, but in a disempowering way.
Don’t we all do this? When we are too lazy to decide on what we want, we settle, for somebody else’s judgment of ourselves. I urge all women out there not to buy into an idea again. I want everyone to have their own ideas, besides what others have to say about them.
So when I was labeled homely, what did the world mean? Did it mean I was being bracketed as a cooking – baking machine type or as out-going, or as the go-getter? How many names? How many labels? There is no stopping. Open any weekly matrimonial ad supplement and all you find is people looking for labels. Homely v/s the career oriented, salaried or non-working, but why can’t I be both? I could be homely and have the passion to make a difference in the world, a drive to contribute my bit.
It was never necessary to conform, it was never a rule to follow any rules. You could be this and that, you could be everything you dreamt of. I am homely – it means I have good taste which reflects in the way I have done up my home. It certainly doesn’t mean I lack ambition or passion to do things outside of my home. That is why it is important that every woman has an occupation. Am I suggesting that everyone has a job?
I say No, a job is not a necessity, but work is, and here is why:
While we all could have our own lists on why we should totally work and rock, I would say, make your own list and put it up your favorite wall at home.
pic credit: funkyah (used under a CC license)
A writer and singer by soul and homemaker by role, I am Malini Misra. I
not every one of us GETS to have a job. Employers and schools say we are too disabled or they don’t give us the supports we need when we do. They are ignorant and shortsighted but I really think so many of us just can’t cope with more rejection and failure. I feel this way and lots of other women do too. If i had my way every human would have their talents turned into paid work ( not fast food or those sorts of jobs) for a year or so before they got married or had kids. But biology and the world at large conspires to prevent this.
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